In a humanist wedding, the ceremony is no longer the boring bit.

It creates the mood for the day, so the script is incredibly important because it’s where your hopes for the future come alive in language that resonates deeply with you and your guests.

That’s why I believe you need to write your own ceremony – not ask AI to do it for you.

If I had a strapline, it would be “your ceremony, your words”, and that’s because your ceremony is your chance to speak from your heart – to share your hopes and promises in a language that only you own. 

In Linguistics, that’s called ‘an idiolect’ – the unique way you use language. Think of it as your linguistic fingerprint. Your friends and family instantly recognise the rhythms of your voice even when your words are being spoken by someone else, but if you subcontract the writing of your script to AI, you risk diluting both the emotional power and the personal connection that make your ceremony truly yours.

There’s no denying that AI can generate persuasive prose. It can craft polished sentences and it can mirror your emotions, but it can’t feel them, because it has no soul. AI can make you sound eloquent, and even profound, but it can’t truly express your living, breathing story – which is why your story needs to be told in your words.

AI is seductive. It offers a convenient shortcut, but it bypasses the vital process of introspection that leads to self-expression. That’s what “The LoveWork” is designed to help with.

What AI can’t do is feel the emotional weight of your memories. It has no understanding of the subtleties of your love for one another, and it can’t capture the way you think and talk.

These are all the things that will make your ceremony resonate deeply, not just with you, but with your loved ones as well. (You can read more about that here…)

Yes, writing your own ceremony can feel overwhelming. But it is also a powerful opportunity – one that invites you to reflect, connect, and celebrate your love in a way no algorithm can replicate.