Writing your own vows is ‘the new normal’ but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Humanist weddings have been legal in Scotland since 2005. It took only ten years for them to become the second most popular form of marriage in the country, and – in Scotland at least – they’ve almost become ‘the new normal’. I meet lots of couples who’ve only ever been to humanist weddings, but – … Continue Reading
5,000 miles: that’s how far away Kelly and Alan were when we first spoke over Skype. It takes courage to organise a wedding at that distance, and confidence to invite your friends to make that journey with you, but that’s the kind of people they are. They relished the prospect of creating their ceremony in … Continue Reading
I’m delighted by Vicky Allan’s article about ‘WE DO!’ in today’s Sunday Herald! My thanks to all the couples who are featured in it: Eli and Kate, Elizabeth and Bengtis, Natasa and Grant, and in the headline – but sadly not the article itself – the originators of ‘Until death or zombies do us part’, Kellie … Continue Reading
It’s the tiny details that make a humanist wedding so personal and moving. Pam told us she realised Lee was ‘The One’ shortly after they got together, when she went into the kitchen to find him picking the onions off a pizza because he knew she didn’t like them. And Lee said that he didn’t know where … Continue Reading
What made it so special was that it was our story, in our words, and being able to share that with our friends and family.
Congratulations to Meghan Markle! As the first bride who isn’t promising to ‘obey’ her royal husband, she’s made headlines around the world, as in this story from The Guardian. It’s no small thing, in the context of a traditional Church of England wedding, but it did make me smile. Since 2005, I’ve conducted more than twelve hundred … Continue Reading
Speaking your wedding vows that you have thought about for so long, and written in your own words, is perhaps the ultimate expression of your love. It’s what humanists in Scotland campaigned for more than twenty years to allow you to do, and they are the perfect expression of what your wedding is all about, … Continue Reading
I remember when I arrived at the Mansion House at the Zoo, Danny was looking especially nervous. He and Lauren had chosen to speak their vows to one another directly and without sharing them beforehand, so I suggested he take a moment to sit and read them over, so he was composed when the time came. Danny spent a … Continue Reading
Jeanette Winterson is a writer whose work I’ve long admired. She’s gay, and she was always against the idea of getting married because, as the sub-headline in her Guardian article says,” Why conform to patriarchal ideas of monogamy?” She’s clearly changed her mind, because she has just got married, and I really liked her vows. I promise to look … Continue Reading