Take, choose, accept: what do you want to promise?

Couples often ask if they can use the word ‘take’ rather than ‘accept’ when they make the legal declaration at the climax of their wedding ceremony. It’s a good question.The Registrar General of Scotland’s web site says “There is no legally prescribed form of words to be used in relation to ‘marriage vows’ in Scotland”, but […]

We Fell In Love…

I was very pleased to be asked by Christina & Jay of Elemental Photography to give them some thoughts about why I do what I do on their inspirational wedding blog We Fell In Love. Check it out, and let me know what you think?

Antisocial Media?

When you got engaged, did you post your happy news on Facebook? Do you share the highs and lows of your private life on twitter? As so many of us share the intimate details of our lives online, there are bound to be times that somebody oversteps the line. More and more often recently, I’ve […]

The Politeness of Kings…

When you’re planning your wedding, one of the most important things of all is the time the ceremony starts. And almost everyone who asks me to conduct their wedding is really clear from the outset that their ceremony absolutely has to start at X o’ clock, because they’ve got a tight timetable, and everything else […]

Humanist Weddings – They’re a Guy Thing…

OK I lied. Weddings really aren’t a guy thing.Men don’t grow up in The Cinderella Complex.We don’t lie in bed at the age of nine thinking, “One day, when I get married, I’m going to wear…”Or even, “One day, when I get married, all the table favours are going to match my team’s football strip.” […]

How To Save Money on Your Humanist Wedding

hardly a day goes by without someone in public life deploring the soaring cost of weddings. Canon Giles Fraser was moaning about it on Thought for The Day, with Andrew Brown lining up behind him in The Guardian. One of their complaints is that wedding ceremonies focus on the egos of the individuals, rather than […]

Multi-lingual Weddings

I’ve just had a call from a lady whose daughter is marrying her French boyfriend, and it occurred to me that I haven’t written anything yet specifically about ceremonies in other languages than English.In the first place, the whole ceremony could be conducted in a different language (including Gaelic or old Scots) as long as […]

The Way I Work

A humanist wedding is is the only form of legal marriage ceremony where two people are free to say in their own words why they are getting married, what their hopes are for the future and what they want to promise to one another.  This is a wonderful privilege, but it’s also a terrifying responsibility.  […]