Wedding Music – a new idea

Next month (May, 2008) I’m going to be marrying a lovely young couple called Robbie and Vicky at Dunblane Hydro. One of the things I’m most looking forward to is watching Vicky come down the aisle to the song she has written and recorded for the ceremony. It’s called ‘Sweet Blessings’ and you can listen […]

Seeing someone else on the side…

Couples sometimes feel bad about approaching more than one celebrant before they decide who they want to work with. I recommend that you speak to more than one of us. OK, you can read our profiles on the web site, but until you meet someone, you don’t really have a sense of who they are. […]

Photographers

Even though this is the era of “Ola!” and “OK!”, there are still some couples who don’t want any photographs of any kind taken by anyone at their wedding. That might seem eccentric to you, but I find it quite touching. Most people want to have more tangible memories so choosing the right photographer is […]

Dotting the “i”s…

One of the great joys of being a celebrant is that we deal with the fun bits of the wedding – meeting the couple, creating and delivering the ceremony – and the Registrars do all the painstaking (but crucial) investigative work behind the scenes – checking you really are who you say you are; checking […]

Nae fuss please, we’re Scottish

As P.G. Wodehouse once observed, “it’s never hard to distinguish between a Scotsman with a grievance and a ray of sunshine” and it’s true that there are no words in English (or Scots) for “joie de vivre”.  I quite often meet couples who say they really don’t want “a lot of flowery, romantic guff” in […]

Are we allowed to sing?

Of course you are! Although as the ceremony is secular, we draw the line at hymns. Still, if you can find a song that’s not too complicated, everyone can join in as long as you remember to print the lyrics in your Order of Ceremony. Mind you, it helps if you’ve got a musical family. […]

Let’s begin at the beginning

Weddings always begin with the entrance of the bride. Well yes, up to a point, Lord Copper. That’s usually the case, but it really doesn’t have to be like that. Many of the women I marry have successful careers, earn more than their partners and live independent lives full of achievement and purpose. How many […]

My parents are very religious, I don’t want to upset them…

Humanist ceremonies are non-religious, not anti-religious. Humanism is about the things that unite people, rather divide them, and the most important of these is love, so it’s difficult for even the most intolerant person to take offense. I often say that “although this ceremony is non-religious, it will be entirely legal, mostly civil (slight pause […]

Order, Order!

The most important thing to remember about your humanist ceremony is that it should be exactly the way you want it. So if you’re totally chilled and like whatever, man, you probably won’t want an Order of Ceremony. On the other hand, if you’re the kind of person who sets goals and can recite most […]

Is Humanism some kind of weird hippy thing?

Until they get married, or go to a funeral, most people have never heard of Humanism, so we get asked all sorts of questions by Anxious of Newtonmearns. So let me reassure you now that – unless you really want to – we don’t all take our clothes off and dance widdershins round a yew […]