Jeanette Winterson is a writer whose work I’ve long admired. She’s gay, and she was always against the idea of getting married because, as the sub-headline in her Guardian article says,” Why conform to patriarchal ideas of monogamy?”
She’s clearly changed her mind, because she has just got married, and I really liked her vows.
As she says, “These were my promises, not someone else’s idea of what I should promise, and so they have real meaning for us both.
Later I had the calligrapher Stephen Raw write them out. They hang on our bedroom wall. When I am in a good mood, or a bad mood, I read them out loud, and, for different reasons, depending on my mood, they steady me”.
I married Tim and Jane 10 years ago, and they told me that their vows hang above their kitchen door.