Doreen and Trevor’s Humanist Wedding at the Royal Botanic Garden, Edinburgh

I do like it when couples arrive in style… 

Trevor and Doreen turned up on a chauffeur-driven trike, and a Harley Davidson respectively! Their ceremony was a blast, not least because of the honesty and humour with which they spoke about their relationship and the way it evolved from a meeting between a hairy biker and a crazy cat lady to a loving, committed relationship between two people who promised to remain partners in crime for ever! Along with these great shots, Doreen sent me this note.

Firstly a huge thanks to you – Trevor and I and all of our guests thought your were fantastic. 
It is fair to say that the majority of our friends and family had never experienced a Humanist wedding and so we had quite a few questions beforehand about what to expect from the “Humorist” wedding as some thought it was called. So it is ideal (as you obviously already knew) to include an explanation as part of the ceremony. After the ceremony everyone – and I really do mean everyone – expressed how much they had enjoyed it, how lovely and personal it was and how it really made them feel connected and part of our day…so lots of happy tears and snotters as well.


Two comments stand out in mind especially – one from my 75 yr old aunty who rushed up to me and said “well if that is an alternative lifestyle then sign me up now!” The other was from my 24yr old nephew who said “I never knew that weddings could be like that, I had decided that I never wanted to get married, but that ceremony has changed my mind.”

We randomly bumped into Tom from the Botanics after the wedding and he was saying that the registrars don’t meet the couple til the day of the wedding. Again I really appreciated the fact that we met before the day and spent a couple of hours getting to know each other (when we both weren’t nervous for one thing!)- & I for sure wanted to be married by someone that I had met and knew that I felt comfortable with.

Also after we met you provided so many examples and helpful information that it really helped us to plan our day….every base was covered!

Otherwise – funny story – Trevor’s dad kept coming up to me and others throughout the evening and asking when the human sacrifice would be happening and as I hadn’t heard that part of the day, I was wondering what the hell he was on about! Anyway my other nephew was funny cos he whipped around and said the Humanists only sacrifice people with beards (which T’s dad has). Anyway all of this made us laugh and various people also commented after the wedding about your opening remarks and thought it funny. 

The only exception seems to be T’s 86 yr old grandmother – oh well – you can’t please all of the people….

It was our day and it was exactly as we wanted it – hearing our own words spoken and exchanging the vows we had written ourselves was incredibly powerful, poignant and memorable. When T & I are in our retirement home we will be boring the staff to tears with stories of our humanist wedding. I am so thankful that humanist weddings are legal in Scotland!
Thanks so much to both of you for these kind words, Doreen, to your friends for the pics, and to the guys at Trike Tours Scotland for theirs as well. Carry on sharing those adventures!

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