Adam & Julia’s Humanist Wedding at The Caves in Edinburgh

Julia and Adam got off to a very bad start. He was unbelievably rude to her and she told everyone she knew that he was “the most ignorant person she had ever met in her life!” 

But despite a series of awkward dates, uncomfortable silences, embarrassing TV appearances and the luminous orange-green mould in Adam’s bread bin, they bonded over a love of music and their lives have never been the same again since. 

As you’ll have guessed by now, their ceremony was funny, intimate, and deeply moving in that ironic combination that we Scots have made our own, and it went down a storm with a crowd who’d come from as far afield as Australia, Hong Kong, the South of England, and Wemyss Bay.

There were so many great moments. Adam’s brother, Elliot and Adam and Julia’s little girl Olivia both gave a reading…

And if I don’t see Olivia’s name in lights in 20 years time I will be surprised…

Because she not only read a poem – she wrote it herself.

Dan, Angela, Barry and Laura led us all in a moving rendition of Stand By Me…

And just as I pronounced Adam and Julia to be husband and wife…

Boom! Went the SFX, and we were showered with glittering confetti.

I have to say that if you want to have a Rock ‘n’ Roll Wedding, there’s nowhere better to do it than The Caves. With its theatrical lighting it’s in a class of its own, even if it makes me look even more than usual like some kind of weird alien!

Julia and Adam wrote me this lovely letter.

I suppose we originally felt that the process of creating our ceremony seemed like a lot of hard work; a bit too soppy and not really our cup of tea! When it actually came down to writing our stories etc., however, we realised what a lovely idea it was. 

We really enjoyed writing our stories – and listening to each others as well. Most couples aren’t usually given the opportunity to write about how they met and fell in love, or why they really want to get married, but I am so glad that you gave us that opportunity.

These really are the things that people should be thinking about on the run up to their wedding – rather than worrying about final balances, menus and dresses! 

In the end our homework made up the majority of our ceremony, which we never expected to happen! It just felt so personal that it would have been a shame not to include it. What we ended up with was a very personal, unique, (pretty soppy!) and special ceremony that we will never forget. 

It was lovely to include our friends and family in this also. All of our guests commented on the ceremony, saying it was one of the nicest weddings they had ever been to! We owe this to you as we could never have done it on our own. Without your help I imagine our wedding would have been very different to how it was. 

We are so glad we found you! Thank you again! Julia and Adam. No – thank you, Adam and Julia, and thanks also to photographer John Need for his great pics.

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